You have a colleague (a friend, a neighbour) who you sense doesn't like you. They attack you in a subtle way, a way in which you can't really defend yourself from (without looking like a jerk). You know it's not anything you did. It's something you are, and they either feel or in reality aren't. You can't ask them what their problem is because they haven't said anything "concrete" yet, and may use it against you (in an ugly way! They are that type of a person ). Do you just shrug your shoulder and go your way, knowing you know yourself (love yourself, have enough faith in yourself, etc, not to have people's opinion bother you)?. Or do you try to retaliate and hurt their feelings; which you know you can do even better than them not only because of the said weakness but because you can be an evil genius yourself when you feel like it (but aren't doing it because u kind of feel sorry for them, and don't want to go down that road). Or do you simply ignore them & try to get over it? How does hate, especially an undeserving hate, make you feel? Please Note that I'm talking about what you ACTUALLY do, did, feel or react. Not asking for a quote from "the right way to deal with animosity according to Dr. Phil" .